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It’s for the Kids: Parenting Basics for Divorced Couples

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parentingParenting can be challenging at times. Things may get even more difficult if you are in the process of getting a divorce. This is especially true if the marriage did not end amicably, and both parties are harboring negative emotions.

In this particular situation, you cannot afford to be selfish. You have to put your kids’ best interests above your own even if that means being civil with your ex-spouse. It may be a sacrifice, but child custody lawyers say that both of you have to share responsibilities.

The following discussion on co-parenting with your ex:

Focus on Your Child’s Needs

Just because you are carrying some baggage does not mean you are going to let your children do things on their own. At this point in their lives, children may get confused with what is happening, and they are not equipped to deal with problems related to your divorce. Make them realize that you love them. Be patient and always think of your kids’ needs.

Be Emotionally Smart

It’s alright to feel frustrated at times, but you need to channel it properly. Do not vent your resentment on your kids. Do not always depend on your children when dealing with divorce-related problems; it may make them feel guilty.

Do not Badmouth Your Ex

Do not display negative emotions when your children spend time with your ex. More importantly, never badmouth your ex, as this will ruin your kids’ relationship with them. In cases where conflicts are inevitable, never ever ask your children to choose a side; learn to compromise.

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Communicate with Your Ex Civilly

You may not want to see your ex ever again, but it is part of your parenting obligations. Be civil as much as possible. Limit your conversations to your children’s needs. Talking about each other’s personal life may become a trigger for trouble.

Parenting with your ex-spouse may feel like you are working with a new group member in the science lab. It’s awkward and difficult, but if you aim for constructive compromises, both of you will form a good parenting team.